I don’t know if you noticed, but last week, your Reader pages were bombarded with AWESOME. I just want to give one more shout-out to the brave, thoughtful, funny, smart people who guest posted last week’s five diverse pieces on body image. Kim, Ken, Samantha, Emily, and Lizzy… you’re all beautiful to me. Thank you so much for coming over to play!
Just for fun, as a way of putting a lid on this mixed package of media analysis and self love, here are the comments from each post that especially resonated with me. Thank you all (and everyone who commented) for joining the conversation!
From Defying Gravity: Jules said, “This was really inspirational – thank you for sharing, Kim! It helps to hear about the ups and downs we all experience (in life, and in weight!), but know that there’s a place of peace to look forward to.”
From Secrets a Father Must Keep: John said, “Wow! Conspicuously great post. Hat off to the author. Man, woman, it doesn’t matter…. the strength of a person’s character is what they do for others without hoping for reward.”
From Body Image and Gaming: Problematic?: Tim said, “While I agree with your post 100% – for some reason I always viewed both video games AND music I listened to as just video games and music I listened to. I never cared that my Dad banned the Black Sabbath album since it was satanic. I liked the beat, the sound, and the throbbing rhythm. I could care less about the words. I guess that’s the same way I always viewed video games – just as a game and nothing more… not as a view into my soul or anything. All that crap being said , I do agree with you that video game manufacturers definitely play up that aspect of things for no reason whatsoever. I’ll support you in whatever campaign you want to start!”
From An Ode to My Postpartum Body: Kelly said, “Love this. It is a struggle all mothers go through, even the ones who have appeared to regain their pre-pregnancy body. Because the fact of the matter is, even if you lost all the weight, evidence of growing babies always remains. It’s not always easy to love those remains, but they are the markings of the most important thing we have ever done in our lives. Things that carry that much weight are never easy or always pretty. Amazing post, friend. And you are definitely one beautiful mama, inside and out.”
And, because I couldn’t choose just one for this post: Magpie said, “Of course I love your brilliant post, my precious Emily. I will add my own two or three cents to this topic. My body felt magical when I was pregnant, adjusting and adapting like crazy to meet my babies’ needs. And after I had my babies I always thought I looked GREAT! Until I tried to put on clothes and realized I would be returning to the land of elastic waist pants for awhile, but my whole being was so focused on my perfect new baby, my appearance wasn’t very important to me. Being a mother teaches us that love transcends a person’s physical appearance, and is much more enduring. I still have many stretch marks. My skin is kind of dented in and thin in those spots. I wear them proudly. Love you!”
Finally, from The Compassionate Body: Erin said, “Thanks for such an honest – and funny! – account! I once heard that we should learn to think of ourselves as a friend who we are slightly amused by (Anne Lamott, I believe, said that). In doing that, we pass ourselves a little of the support and compassion we’d unthinkingly give to others, but all too often forget to give ourselves. A great post!”
And again, because there was just so much good going on, one more: Molly said, “This is an incredible post – thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us. This part is especially helpful to me: ‘Our bodies want our approval. They deeply want our love and acceptance. They are like tender-hearted little children who want nothing more than to please us, to do our bidding, and show us the things of which they are capable.’ …Also, thank you for the simple plan: 10 nice things for 30 days. Awesome!”
Following Lizzy’s wisdom from Friday’s post, I’m going to go home now, take a long walk with my dogs, eat something delectable, and spend a minute telling that amazing woman in the mirror how much I love her. Happy weekend, y’all!